The necessary ingredient for a nexus between fundamentals and skill is experience. This applies to every facet of life, not just to vocations but to interpersonal success as well. For example, there is nothing like saying the wrong thing at the wrong time and feeling the embarrassment, or the empathy for the pain you have caused another, to teach the wisdom of zipping it or putting things another way the next time.
No matter how reasonable the counsel, we too often must live the experience and feel the pain before we really apply wisdom in our lives. This was brought so vividly to mind for me when I experienced a car accident. A lady ran a red light and I broadsided her in the middle of the intersection. Decades later I can still see her car rolling up on its side exposing the undercarriage. I remember how fast it happened and how https://hamiradio.co.jp/
helpless I was at that moment. I was only going about 40 mph but the sick crushing pain from the impact of my body on the dashboard and windshield stays with me to this day. Hobbling around on crutches for weeks nursing a knee injury is not something I wish to repeat either. I gained a lot of respect for tons of moving vehicle and the cold and unyielding reality of momentum and inertia. Up until then, the danger of automobiles was an abstraction. I heard about it, studied it in driver’s education classes, saw the statistics, passed terrible accidents on the road and even lost relatives and friends to car accidents. It was still all theory; it wouldn’t happen to me. Well, yes, I realized it could, but it was a real long shot because I thought I was a good driver and in control of things. Experience indelibly taught me that it can happen to me and that I better drive and live defensively. That experience I was fortunate enough to survive created a sense of caution and wisdom that may have more than once helped me avoid even greater disasters. That is the useful takeaway, not that life was unfair (“poor me”) or that God shouldn’t let me experience the pain.
It is not by book reading or listening to lectures that the old become wise (which has caused me pause more than once as I have worked through this book of words and counsel). It is in the school of hard knocks that people grow, mature and become sage. The more dramatic the life experiences the more profoundly we are shaped. We could read every book in the world on subjects and speak to every person who has experience in them. But we will never know the true meaning of the death of a parent, spouse or child, getting divorced, having children, being imprisoned, abject poverty, marriage, sex, being robbed, having a fortune, being lost in the wilderness, life-threatening or debilitating illness, growing a successful